Ender,
Let's call a truce -- the point has been made, which is what is important.
One SHOULD NOT seek understanding of another based upon the ephemeral vagaries of FEELINGS, particularly when there is OBJECTIVE data available -- ONE charismatic individual (sound familiar?) can overload/swoon another by short-circuiting their intellectual defenses, ala Billery or Obama -- they ARE smooth and soothing when presenting their "game face."
What is BEHIND the charismatic public facade is all important, worthy of careful observation and mature discernment.
intothegoodnight
I have to disagree here a little with the not seeking understanding based on one's feeling. Should decisions be based only on one's feeling ... of course not.
I have always told my children when making a decision listen to your head, heart and stomach. Your head will think things through looking at the facts and doing the research, your heart will guide your feelings and gut instinct on what vibes you may get about the situation and your stomach will alert you to any unknown hidden doubts you may subconsiously be having in making your decision ... If all three are in agreement there is a pretty good chance that your making the right decision.
But, if your head says all looks well and you like what you see and hear yet your heart or stomach is yelling red flag at you ... that is when one should step back and take some time to re-look at the situation.
Frankly, for me, all 3 are in agreement ... The thought of him as our next President scares the heck out of me.