Laurelayn
Veteran Member
I dont know if this is the right place to post this or not, but it seems the most appropriate to me.
I need help, I have a tough time asking for help and I have no family to turn to with this since they are all alcoholics and would be at a complete loss.
My DH, whom I adore, is mired in self medicating for pain by drinking better than a pint of whiskey every night. he builds commercial fire sprinkler systems for a living and lifts and carries 100 lbs. or better of pipe across job sites and up stairs daily on a regular basis. his shoulders and knees are not going to last much longer, they are in need of surgical intervention already and his blood pressure is already high and medication is not helping. AA is out of the question for him, we work way too many hours already and going to meetings, well, he just dosent do strangers.
I guess I am pretty much the same with the exception of my "family" here.
We cannot afford for him to loose his job but I believe that if his employer knew how bad his physical condition was they would encourage him to get his medical problems taken care of and seek help for his alcoholism. BUT, I am more afraid that if I bring it up to anyone that can help that they will just find a reason to fire him and be done with it. I really believe that the co. he works for cares more for him and his contributions than that, but what if I am wrong? I feel so stuck between a rock and a hard place here.
I am watching someone I adore drink himself to death to alleviate pain that could be better alleviated by a few months of light duty and some serious physical therapy.
Do I ask for help from his supervisor (whom I do believe will be supportive) and possibly be wrong and end up having my DH blame me for him loosing a good job or do I just watch a damn fine man drink himself to death because I am afraid of loosing the (meager yet solid) material things we have accumulated in our 15 years together.
I dont know anymore, at 44 and 45 years old we both just seem to look forward to death because keeping up with the status quo is so difficult.
I know many of you will freak over that but thats where we are. work work work, havent had a vacation in 6 years and there is no fun on the horizon either, just more work work work.
yikes, it's late
Ill say goodnight now.
Laurelayn
I need help, I have a tough time asking for help and I have no family to turn to with this since they are all alcoholics and would be at a complete loss.
My DH, whom I adore, is mired in self medicating for pain by drinking better than a pint of whiskey every night. he builds commercial fire sprinkler systems for a living and lifts and carries 100 lbs. or better of pipe across job sites and up stairs daily on a regular basis. his shoulders and knees are not going to last much longer, they are in need of surgical intervention already and his blood pressure is already high and medication is not helping. AA is out of the question for him, we work way too many hours already and going to meetings, well, he just dosent do strangers.
I guess I am pretty much the same with the exception of my "family" here.
We cannot afford for him to loose his job but I believe that if his employer knew how bad his physical condition was they would encourage him to get his medical problems taken care of and seek help for his alcoholism. BUT, I am more afraid that if I bring it up to anyone that can help that they will just find a reason to fire him and be done with it. I really believe that the co. he works for cares more for him and his contributions than that, but what if I am wrong? I feel so stuck between a rock and a hard place here.
I am watching someone I adore drink himself to death to alleviate pain that could be better alleviated by a few months of light duty and some serious physical therapy.
Do I ask for help from his supervisor (whom I do believe will be supportive) and possibly be wrong and end up having my DH blame me for him loosing a good job or do I just watch a damn fine man drink himself to death because I am afraid of loosing the (meager yet solid) material things we have accumulated in our 15 years together.
I dont know anymore, at 44 and 45 years old we both just seem to look forward to death because keeping up with the status quo is so difficult.
I know many of you will freak over that but thats where we are. work work work, havent had a vacation in 6 years and there is no fun on the horizon either, just more work work work.
yikes, it's late
Ill say goodnight now.
Laurelayn