homecanner1
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OT/MISC The REAL reason older men proposition later life women - and no it ISN'T because they think you're sexy
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CTFIREBATTCHIEF
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Loofah code...holy crap. NOW I've heard everything. LMFAO!!!!
homecanner1
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You know its all true. These people were young in the 60's and 70's. Average age is 72. And they appear to be having lots of fun. So I think the original article is out of touch.
View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kWz35yXncfE&pp=ygUWQ2l0eSBmaXJlIHRoZSB2aWxsYWdlcw%3D%3D
You know its all true. These people were young in the 60's and 70's. Average age is 72. And they appear to be having lots of fun. So I think the original article is out of touch.
Betty_Rose
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This is such a tiresome and untrue story.
I’ve lived in The Villages and this whole loofah thing is a myth started by an angry liberal.
Please look it up.
It’s a total fabrication.
homecanner1
Veteran Member
And....
You can say its all a bunch of loony leftists but its heavy ex mil retirees and they leaned 67 percent GOP in 2020. And a whopping 81 percent for Trump in March 2024.
So its a Conservative Silver Senior dating paradise. Loofas optional.
Politico stats:
Folks who buy and live full time know what to expect politically.
You can say its all a bunch of loony leftists but its heavy ex mil retirees and they leaned 67 percent GOP in 2020. And a whopping 81 percent for Trump in March 2024.
So its a Conservative Silver Senior dating paradise. Loofas optional.
Politico stats:
Folks who buy and live full time know what to expect politically.
Lone_Hawk
Resident Spook
Well, this was an interesting read. I'm happy where I am, thank you very much.
However, it reminds me of something I heard about widows when I was a young man:
They don't yell, they don't tell, and their grateful as hell.
I never tested that out. As for younger women?
It isn't the initial investment, it is the upkeep!
However, it reminds me of something I heard about widows when I was a young man:
They don't yell, they don't tell, and their grateful as hell.
I never tested that out. As for younger women?
It isn't the initial investment, it is the upkeep!
Tires, brakes & batteries.
homecanner1
Veteran Member
It took on a life of its own and went viral. I think its hysterical, lol.
Old men are often looking for a nurse and a purse.
homecanner1
Veteran Member
Obviously its a small percentage of full blown swingers locally. The majority are married couples. But you get the RV snowbird community from all over the US and Canada looking to dance and happy hour with likeminded retirees to a soundtrack they all loved in their youth. The odds are ever in your favor of finding a singleton with or without a sponge dangling as a come hither.
Apparently there is a robust hanging of 'pineapples on the doors' on cruise ships as well.
Its so mainstream you can say been there done that and got the t-shirt
This was the thread we needed for this heavy news week with Russian Concert Hall and Bridge Collapse.
* and now back to Holy Week *
Lol
Apparently there is a robust hanging of 'pineapples on the doors' on cruise ships as well.
Its so mainstream you can say been there done that and got the t-shirt
This was the thread we needed for this heavy news week with Russian Concert Hall and Bridge Collapse.
* and now back to Holy Week *
Lol
kyrsyan
Has No Life - Lives on TB
I had to deal with this twice. It quickly ended when the gentlemen in question realized that I was not going to cut out my son so I could provide that level of "love and care" to them. I also wasn't going to try to "train" my son to behave in the manner that they thought would be appropriate if they were going to be in the house. (Not seen, not heard) Basically, they wanted the care that they saw my son receiving. They thought they could just "replace" him. It's not that I'm well off, because I'm not. Or that I'm attractive. Puh-lease, those days were long ago. It's that I have a caregiver mentality and they thought they could redirect it. And they thought that "unattractive" equaled desperate. Except I'm kind of full of on my caregiver quota and I'm not looking to add more to that plate. Especially not adult human beings that could actually be useful and contribute in some way but don't want to. Sorry but sex and an SSI check just don't balance that equation. And desperate... I'm a hermit personality. I'm good all by myself and I have friends that fill all the "people" gaps that I have.
Now, if someone came along that wanted a solid relationship, as partners, supporting each other in our weak areas and caring for my son, I'd look at that. If someone wanted to pay me as a caregiver, if I could work it around my job and my son, I'd consider it. But I don't need slavery cloaked as a relationship.
Now, if someone came along that wanted a solid relationship, as partners, supporting each other in our weak areas and caring for my son, I'd look at that. If someone wanted to pay me as a caregiver, if I could work it around my job and my son, I'd consider it. But I don't need slavery cloaked as a relationship.
medic38572
TB Fanatic
This thread went nasty after the first few posts!
meezy
I think I can...
Loofahs? Gross. Just... gross.
Those with elderly parents really need to watch out for this, especially if the person has even a slight degree of cognitive impairment.
I don't know for sure that the woman who married my 80-ish grandfather was a scammer -- she wasn't much younger -- but I do know that his family wasn't allowed to visit him anymore and didn't get a dime of an inheritance. Before she came along, my grandpa had a fund set aside to pay for his two grandkids' college tuition. Poof. Along with many treasured heirlooms. Of course the first was the thing that mattered most to us, not the money.
I'm kinda worried about that happening to my husband's cousin. His mother passed a few years ago, he's still healthy and active and loves to gamble (he wins a lot) and flash his gold chains and loaded money clip. Though he says he's not ever interested in that, been a bachelor too long.
Those with elderly parents really need to watch out for this, especially if the person has even a slight degree of cognitive impairment.
I don't know for sure that the woman who married my 80-ish grandfather was a scammer -- she wasn't much younger -- but I do know that his family wasn't allowed to visit him anymore and didn't get a dime of an inheritance. Before she came along, my grandpa had a fund set aside to pay for his two grandkids' college tuition. Poof. Along with many treasured heirlooms. Of course the first was the thing that mattered most to us, not the money.
I'm kinda worried about that happening to my husband's cousin. His mother passed a few years ago, he's still healthy and active and loves to gamble (he wins a lot) and flash his gold chains and loaded money clip. Though he says he's not ever interested in that, been a bachelor too long.
Doc1
Has No Life - Lives on TB
I'm rather severely colorblind so I imagine I'd get into all kinds of trouble with the "loofah" thing.
"No, I'm not an effing queer," I told the dude as he was picking up his teeth from the parking lot.
"No, I don't want to swing, and certainly not with you!" I told the obese couple who started getting handsy with me.
"No. Really. I'm just getting ready to have a bath," I told the couple staring at my loofah...
Actually, I don't even use "loofahs." I'm strictly a wash cloth and sponge kinda' guy.
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Doc
"No, I'm not an effing queer," I told the dude as he was picking up his teeth from the parking lot.
"No, I don't want to swing, and certainly not with you!" I told the obese couple who started getting handsy with me.
"No. Really. I'm just getting ready to have a bath," I told the couple staring at my loofah...
Actually, I don't even use "loofahs." I'm strictly a wash cloth and sponge kinda' guy.
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Doc
homecanner1
Veteran Member
Honestly never seen a black bath sponge, would get gunky/flaky with soap scum.
But as a spring door decor, could see it with all the Florida pastel.
Or on the patio table on the balcony or tucked in a window.
Agree 100 percent it went wildfire as a joke. And they are laughing over it. Notable enough that it made Palm Beach News, NY Post and Daily Mail that felt it newsworthy to dig into the true or false nature of it.
Do I think 70 yr old men are hitting on women for the reasons in the OP? Kinda doubtful as women who currently live there on youtube tout its dating scene as a positive reason to live there. And it sounds like the women are just as forward.
I live in very vanilla rural Iowa and in a historical Presbyterian Church built in 1873. No inclination to swing or watch any spectacles lol And I loathed the term cougar the minute I heard it. As gold digging and predatory.
My parents retired to Fort Lauderdale circa 1977 and could never figure out why I didn't want to join them and move down there. HC knows all about Florida from many visits. It hasn't changed one bit.
Honestly, I think its all the sunshine, salt breeze and fresh squeeze citrus diet. And they get a second fountain of youth that jumpstarts their internal drivetrain. The wonder is that more senior colonies on a county wide size have not sprung up around the country.
People are human and will hope to find partners no matter how old they get. The sponges are silly fun and the fact its spread is evidence of folks bringing the idea home after vacation.
The whole point is its a two way street and women are on par with the men in their senior years.
But as a spring door decor, could see it with all the Florida pastel.
Or on the patio table on the balcony or tucked in a window.
Agree 100 percent it went wildfire as a joke. And they are laughing over it. Notable enough that it made Palm Beach News, NY Post and Daily Mail that felt it newsworthy to dig into the true or false nature of it.
Do I think 70 yr old men are hitting on women for the reasons in the OP? Kinda doubtful as women who currently live there on youtube tout its dating scene as a positive reason to live there. And it sounds like the women are just as forward.
I live in very vanilla rural Iowa and in a historical Presbyterian Church built in 1873. No inclination to swing or watch any spectacles lol And I loathed the term cougar the minute I heard it. As gold digging and predatory.
My parents retired to Fort Lauderdale circa 1977 and could never figure out why I didn't want to join them and move down there. HC knows all about Florida from many visits. It hasn't changed one bit.
Honestly, I think its all the sunshine, salt breeze and fresh squeeze citrus diet. And they get a second fountain of youth that jumpstarts their internal drivetrain. The wonder is that more senior colonies on a county wide size have not sprung up around the country.
People are human and will hope to find partners no matter how old they get. The sponges are silly fun and the fact its spread is evidence of folks bringing the idea home after vacation.
The whole point is its a two way street and women are on par with the men in their senior years.
TerriHaute
Hoosier Gardener
This thread, except for the diversion into The Villages activities, is very interesting to me. I am 71 years old. I have had two marriages, with 11 years of being single in between. During that 11 year interval, I dated one man on and off for the first year (it ended because he wanted to get married and I knew that would be a mistake), and for almost all of the ten years following, I didn't date or want to. Being an introvert, I was absolutely content to live on my own, free to do as I pleased, kids leaving the nest, pursuing my career, owned my own home, and was in control of my own money. For many reasons, I had no intention of ever marrying again.
And then things changed. DH and I worked for the same company. We were friends and colleagues for several years before he was widowed suddenly, so we already liked and knew each other very well. When we carefully started dating, we both knew right away that it was going to lead to more. If either of us still had children living at home or if DH had a problematic ex-wife, I never would have considered it - I don't tolerate drama at all and after raising my own children, I didn't want to raise someone else's. Our incomes and financial obligations and goals were roughly the same. We have been such a good fit for each other and are coming up on our 22nd anniversary - longer than either of us were married to our first spouses. Our life together is satisfying and happy.
That being said, if I find myself single, there is no way in hell that I would ever marry again. Don't get me wrong, I love being married to DH and would be grief-stricken to lose him. However, I have no interest in being married to anyone else, I would be quite comfortable to be on my own again, content with my memories. Some women are lost without the emotional connection, need to be part of a couple, but not me. As I tell DH, it's too much work to train someone new.
As far as having someone to assist me in my old age, I have 3 children, all 3 have told me that I have a home with them if I ever need it (although that would be a last choice for me). The eldest is an internal medicine doctor, so medical guidance and care is kind of a given.
And then things changed. DH and I worked for the same company. We were friends and colleagues for several years before he was widowed suddenly, so we already liked and knew each other very well. When we carefully started dating, we both knew right away that it was going to lead to more. If either of us still had children living at home or if DH had a problematic ex-wife, I never would have considered it - I don't tolerate drama at all and after raising my own children, I didn't want to raise someone else's. Our incomes and financial obligations and goals were roughly the same. We have been such a good fit for each other and are coming up on our 22nd anniversary - longer than either of us were married to our first spouses. Our life together is satisfying and happy.
That being said, if I find myself single, there is no way in hell that I would ever marry again. Don't get me wrong, I love being married to DH and would be grief-stricken to lose him. However, I have no interest in being married to anyone else, I would be quite comfortable to be on my own again, content with my memories. Some women are lost without the emotional connection, need to be part of a couple, but not me. As I tell DH, it's too much work to train someone new.
As far as having someone to assist me in my old age, I have 3 children, all 3 have told me that I have a home with them if I ever need it (although that would be a last choice for me). The eldest is an internal medicine doctor, so medical guidance and care is kind of a given.
Doc1
Has No Life - Lives on TB
There are a 'ell of a lot of women for whom tires, brakes and batteries would be seen as an aphrodisiac! Mechanics are rarely lonely...
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That’s me. D’Anne and I were together for 25 years. I haven’t the slightest idea how to “date” in this era.
I drove my wife to the mall in a city a couple years ago. I hate shopping, so I always sit in the chairs in the center of the wide hall and watch people go by. I was the only one in the chairs when an elderly lady sat down one seat away. We exchanged hello and she said she was there with her younger sister but couldn't walk as far as she used to. I asked her how old she was and she said she would be 99 in 2 months and had never been married. I told her she was getting around really well for her age. She thanked me and said she was very healthy now but she had some medical issues throughout her life. I asked her if she had ever been bed ridden and she said "Oh yes. Many times. And once in a buggy".
I told DH many times that if I were to pass before him, that I hoped that he would remarry, and not be alone for the rest of his life. He said he would trade me for two twenty year olds. As we grew older, he acknowledged that he better make that two thirty year olds. Or more.
Night Owl
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You know I have been around medically and living in senior communities for over 40 years, so I have seen things that would make a widowers wife spin in her grave.
First if the wife passes first there is a thing called the casserole brigade, where woman read the obituaries and when a wife dies they ring over a casserole to the widower and tell him they will be there for him.
i have heard woman complaining in the beauty shop that her date dropped her off after dinner and she didn’t trust him so she went to his house, looked in the bedroom window and he was in bed with another woman.
Worst I have seen so many patients go from having a home and money to living in a small apartment because they met a young cocktail waitress and married her a month after their wife passed away.
One case a social worker in Ohio found a bottle of pills with the doctors name on. They called to find out if the doctor could tell them anything about this gentleman. We he was a quiet Engineer, who’s wife passed and he met a young thing, married her. She had him sell his home and buy an RV to travel the country. This young thing told an Ohio doctor that he was aggressive and agitated all the time and she feared for her life. So they locked him up and put him on strong sedatives.The wife took off after she got him committed and they couldn’t get ahold of her. She was filing for divorce and there was no money in his accounts to pay his bills. So they sent him back to Arizona to his previous doctor for evaluation. The Engineer came in in a wheel chair totally in a stumor. The doctor talked to the social worker that accompanied him and said he was going to take him off all the medications. He talked with him and he. Was an unlucky one that was just taken by a gold digger.
Personally knew of a multimillionaire he owed funeral homes in Chicago before he retired. He and his wife live very frugally all their lives, she would use the tea bag twice type person, I knew they had money, cause Amy family also had funeral homes in Chicago. So he meets this young thing after his wife passes away, within 3 weeks he marries this youngster and within a month she takes him for every penny had. He went from millions to living only on his social security in a, studio apartment the rest of his life.
Maybe this lady experienced men after her for what her felt was her money, but in a senior community were there are100 women to 1 man…..it’s jungle for snatching up a guy.
As for me,I I’ll never remarry. I’m not washing, cleaning and cooking for another man . My Aunt had it right, when she became a widow and she went out with a guy, she told them, I don’t have a bedroom and I don’t have a kitchen. And my Mother always use to say, there is no fool like an old fool. Sorry guys, but there are times you think with the wrong head.
BTW - if you remarried, the new spouse in the state of Florida are entitled to 1/3 of all the assets and house. The children are cut out of a lot of the parent’s monies. So estate planning by your state marital laws should be knowledge you know before getting serious about getting married.
First if the wife passes first there is a thing called the casserole brigade, where woman read the obituaries and when a wife dies they ring over a casserole to the widower and tell him they will be there for him.
i have heard woman complaining in the beauty shop that her date dropped her off after dinner and she didn’t trust him so she went to his house, looked in the bedroom window and he was in bed with another woman.
Worst I have seen so many patients go from having a home and money to living in a small apartment because they met a young cocktail waitress and married her a month after their wife passed away.
One case a social worker in Ohio found a bottle of pills with the doctors name on. They called to find out if the doctor could tell them anything about this gentleman. We he was a quiet Engineer, who’s wife passed and he met a young thing, married her. She had him sell his home and buy an RV to travel the country. This young thing told an Ohio doctor that he was aggressive and agitated all the time and she feared for her life. So they locked him up and put him on strong sedatives.The wife took off after she got him committed and they couldn’t get ahold of her. She was filing for divorce and there was no money in his accounts to pay his bills. So they sent him back to Arizona to his previous doctor for evaluation. The Engineer came in in a wheel chair totally in a stumor. The doctor talked to the social worker that accompanied him and said he was going to take him off all the medications. He talked with him and he. Was an unlucky one that was just taken by a gold digger.
Personally knew of a multimillionaire he owed funeral homes in Chicago before he retired. He and his wife live very frugally all their lives, she would use the tea bag twice type person, I knew they had money, cause Amy family also had funeral homes in Chicago. So he meets this young thing after his wife passes away, within 3 weeks he marries this youngster and within a month she takes him for every penny had. He went from millions to living only on his social security in a, studio apartment the rest of his life.
Maybe this lady experienced men after her for what her felt was her money, but in a senior community were there are100 women to 1 man…..it’s jungle for snatching up a guy.
As for me,I I’ll never remarry. I’m not washing, cleaning and cooking for another man . My Aunt had it right, when she became a widow and she went out with a guy, she told them, I don’t have a bedroom and I don’t have a kitchen. And my Mother always use to say, there is no fool like an old fool. Sorry guys, but there are times you think with the wrong head.
BTW - if you remarried, the new spouse in the state of Florida are entitled to 1/3 of all the assets and house. The children are cut out of a lot of the parent’s monies. So estate planning by your state marital laws should be knowledge you know before getting serious about getting married.
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Night Owl
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OMG…I have an home in The Villages and there is no such thing with the colors luffas. It’s so they can find there cars or golf carts….cars are all white, silver or black these days, try to find you car in the parking lot.. If there are swingers I have Never seen them. There is a singles club, but they are for outings. Truly all the YouTube channel people that are villagers all have had to answer that question. And no one has ever seen or heard of any monkey business.Apparently the drunk go carting resulted in mistakenly driving off in the wrong one periodically. So dangling them in the golf cart was a way to find yours in the lineup.
What started as a joke 4-5 yrs ago took off
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Can't stop laughing
View: https://www.tiktok.com/@torahiman/video/7194822621391768874
Swingers swap upside-down pineapples for color-coded loofahs
Loofah sponges may clean your body — but they’re apparently a sexy sign that people are getting down and dirty at an infamous Florida retirement village.nypost.com
And rumors lots of Canadian Viagra arrives at the post office lol.
Now when we lived in Sun City, Sun City West AZ.area, that is a different story. Look up “SUN DAZE” a on YouTube. It was a program about swingers in ‘Sin Cities’, AZ.
FYI…..Viagra is now suppose to help Alzheimer’s
homecanner1
Veteran Member
Lol its terminal madness of the end times
Its underground as all swinger activity has always been
But now you are all more savvy to their signals as the pics prove people are hanging bath sponges off vehicles. The pineapple upside down has been a secret flag for a while too, often put out in a planter to identify a houseparty in progress.
Thus if you see it next door and cars parking two blocks away with foot traffic, then you can monitor.
Likewise if you find a bath sponge off your mailbox or car antennae in a parking lot, you are hip to the joke
The coding or alerting to others in "the life" are long standing. In the 80's and 90's ankle bracelets on women were used in the S & M community. Or a black satin or velvet ribbon on their necks to quietly signal.
For whatever reason they are blaming this on randy seniors at The Villages. But it likely had its origin out west
My entire point is that the OP article suggested only men are making the come on moves to older gals and its a whole new ball game out there of kinky Karens as well. I blame porn too. It is what it is. There are too many anecdotes, pics of sponges, reddit posts, youtube tutorials on best spots and so on
Google: 'Upside down Pineapples on Cruise Ship doors' then click Images
'Its a scene' as the hipsters say.
Tons of examples. Law enforcement knows as does the cruise industry.
Now you do too!
www.instagram.com
Its underground as all swinger activity has always been
But now you are all more savvy to their signals as the pics prove people are hanging bath sponges off vehicles. The pineapple upside down has been a secret flag for a while too, often put out in a planter to identify a houseparty in progress.
Thus if you see it next door and cars parking two blocks away with foot traffic, then you can monitor.
Likewise if you find a bath sponge off your mailbox or car antennae in a parking lot, you are hip to the joke
The coding or alerting to others in "the life" are long standing. In the 80's and 90's ankle bracelets on women were used in the S & M community. Or a black satin or velvet ribbon on their necks to quietly signal.
For whatever reason they are blaming this on randy seniors at The Villages. But it likely had its origin out west
My entire point is that the OP article suggested only men are making the come on moves to older gals and its a whole new ball game out there of kinky Karens as well. I blame porn too. It is what it is. There are too many anecdotes, pics of sponges, reddit posts, youtube tutorials on best spots and so on
Google: 'Upside down Pineapples on Cruise Ship doors' then click Images
'Its a scene' as the hipsters say.
Tons of examples. Law enforcement knows as does the cruise industry.
Now you do too!
Doll on Instagram: "A Little #pineapple #upsidedown #cruise #foryou #momsofinstagram #momsofig"
109K likes, 426 comments - dolly_olly_oxenfree on November 7, 2023: "A Little #pineapple #upsidedown #cruise #foryou #momsofinstagram #momsofig"
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Hmmm! Doc. Doc I am 77!! Not to put too fine a point on things; but do you have any tips which brands of tires, batteries, and brakes are the best aphrodisiacs? Are Michelin tires sexy? I would think Die Hard batteries would be hot (Platinum of course), have no clue on brakes. Any good tips would be appreciated.
Everything in my social world is changing so fast. SMH!!
You show me how to breed an OBD dongle to my not-so-smart phone and you'll have my unquenchable passion&devotion.
(You can Google search it. It's not dirty)
Eta: hold on here, Jeancat are you a "he one" or a "she one". Not politically correct but gotta ask.
He one!! Threw away my flip phone after the wife died. Adopted wife’s apple phone and name because I am too computer illiterate to change everything.You show me how to breed an OBD dongle to my not-so-smart phone and you'll have my unquenchable passion&devotion.
(You can Google search it. It's not dirty)
Eta: hold on here, Jeancat are you a "he one" or a "she one". Not politically correct but gotta ask.
“breed an OBD dongle.” You sure your not being dirty? Sure sounds like it!
homecanner1
Veteran Member
I know its preposterous but this is a total thing under the radar!
The modern day version of getting your freak flag on
Swinger garden flag
" Dolores that new thirtysomething couple across the street can't landscape to save their arse "
As we head into increased breakdown, be aware people may resort to wifeswappimg for cash. Turning their house into a low key brothel. Over age 18 consenting adults can get up to whatever they want but squatters are taking over homes in residential subdivisions and then hosting hired stripper parties for a modest cover fee.
Nobody wants to live next to a P Diddy endless pool party.
Atlanta:
Cruise ship hook ups are in international waters which is why they became a space to romp.
They will move back onto dry land.
So keep an eye out for those open invitations. The merchandising is lit.
^ probably w/a bath sponge ^
What will these crazy kids think of next?
The modern day version of getting your freak flag on
Swinger garden flag
" Dolores that new thirtysomething couple across the street can't landscape to save their arse "
As we head into increased breakdown, be aware people may resort to wifeswappimg for cash. Turning their house into a low key brothel. Over age 18 consenting adults can get up to whatever they want but squatters are taking over homes in residential subdivisions and then hosting hired stripper parties for a modest cover fee.
Nobody wants to live next to a P Diddy endless pool party.
Atlanta:
Cruise ship hook ups are in international waters which is why they became a space to romp.
They will move back onto dry land.
So keep an eye out for those open invitations. The merchandising is lit.
^ probably w/a bath sponge ^
What will these crazy kids think of next?
A lot of these "gold digger" stories are prosecutable for fraud and qualify for annulment.
DazedandConfused
Veteran Member
I look for a older woman because she is more likely to recognize the early signs of a stroke its a thing in men my age..
