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Deena in GA

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Wow! So timely for me! My 90 year old father had a heart attack a week ago yesterday. He’s home now, but it has wiped him out. It was a huge wake-up call for many in our extended family because he’s always been incredibly active and strong for his age. In fact, the heart attack started as he was digging in his garden last Saturday.
 
WildDaisy

WildDaisy

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I spent 8 years caring for my father with Alzheimer's in our home. I would do it again. Changing diapers, bathing, feeding, getting into a wheelchair. It was exhausting and we couldnt go anywhere for all those years.

And being there holding his hand as he took his last breath was priceless. My only regret was not saying all the things I wanted to say to him early on when he still had some semblance of what was going on. By the time I was ready to say goodbye, it was too late for him to understand what I was saying.
 
Ragnarok

Ragnarok

On and On, South of Heaven
WildDaisy said:
I spent 8 years caring for my father with Alzheimer's in our home. I would do it again. Changing diapers, bathing, feeding, getting into a wheelchair. It was exhausting and we couldnt go anywhere for all those years.

And being there holding his hand as he took his last breath was priceless. My only regret was not saying all the things I wanted to say to him early on when he still had some semblance of what was going on. By the time I was ready to say goodbye, it was too late for him to understand what I was saying.
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My parents lived up in the northwoods of Wisconsin. My Pops contracted Alzheimer's and when it got bad enough, I had them move down to Florida with me.

They were here about 3 years and while there were still moments of clarity, the loving father I once knew was gone. When he started to beat my Mom I didn't know what to do.

It was only a few short months, though, and he refused to get out of bed. I tried to get him to sit up and he started saying he was going to pass out.

I called 911 and his blood pressure was almost non-existant. They worked on him about 20 minutes in the ambulance but couldn't stabalize him. The driver told me they were going to the hospital right away and would continue to work on him on the way.

When we got to the hospital, the doctors had him stablized and wanted to keep him overnight to run some tests. I gave him a kiss on the forehead and told him, "I'll see you tomorrow, Pops".

I figured I would pick him up around 5pm and went to work the next day. About noon I got a call from my Mom who told me, "Your Pops is in heaven". He had had a heart attack. There was so much left unsaid by me. He was always there for me no matter what trouble I was facing and I can't say that I did the same for him. Just like that he was gone.

My Mom said just before he went into cardiac arrest that he woke up and saw her and his mind was clear. He reached out and held her hand and said, "Hi, Sweetie"...

Those were his last words.

This has not been a good day.
 
Southside

Southside

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Deena in GA said:
Wow! So timely for me! My 90 year old father had a heart attack a week ago yesterday. He’s home now, but it has wiped him out. It was a huge wake-up call for many in our extended family because he’s always been incredibly active and strong for his age. In fact, the heart attack started as he was digging in his garden last Saturday.
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Prayers for you, your father, and entire family.
 
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ktrapper

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Ragnarok said:
My parents lived up in the northwoods of Wisconsin. My Pops contracted Alzheimer's and when it got bad enough, I had them move down to Florida with me.

They were here about 3 years and while there were still moments of clarity, the loving father I once knew was gone. When he started to beat my Mom I didn't know what to do.

It was only a few short months, though, and he refused to get out of bed. I tried to get him to sit up and he started saying he was going to pass out.

I called 911 and his blood pressure was almost non-existant. They worked on him about 20 minutes in the ambulance but couldn't stabalize him. The driver told me they were going to the hospital right away and would continue to work on him on the way.

When we got to the hospital, the doctors had him stablized and wanted to keep him overnight to run some tests. I gave him a kiss on the forehead and told him, "I'll see you tomorrow, Pops".

I figured I would pick him up around 5pm and went to work the next day. About noon I got a call from my Mom who told me, "Your Pops is in heaven". He had had a heart attack. There was so much left unsaid by me. He was always there for me no matter what trouble I was facing and I can't say that I did the same for him. Just like that he was gone.

My Mom said just before he went into cardiac arrest that he woke up and saw her and his mind was clear. He reached out and held her hand and said, "Hi, Sweetie"...

Those were his last words.

This has not been a good day.
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My heart hurts for you. I brought my mother from Alabama up to Alaska before it set in too much on her. She still knew what was what but mental clarity was going quickly. We were driving through the Canadian Rockies, it was first of January. I asked her what she thought of the snow covered Rockies.
“It’s just beautiful, it looks like Heaven is just around the corner”
Not long after that, about two years it was. Hers progressed very quickly.
 
Ragnarok

Ragnarok

On and On, South of Heaven
RB Martin said:
Prayers for you and your Mom, Rags. God bless you both.
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My Mom moved back up to Wisconsin not long after. She missed the seasons and never could get used to the congestion down here in Florida. She'd always say, "There's so many people!" ( She is right. I cannot wait to move out of here and back to the woods! )

Pops passed away 3 days before my birthday in 2009. So, she has been alone for 15 years. Still drives, still can get around and still has her mental faculties with her. My older brother and his family live about 7 miles away, so if she needs anything they are very close by. She goes over there every Sunday for dinner and to visit her grandkids and ( now ) great grandkids.

I call her every Sunday as well at 1800 hours and we talk for about an hour.

She will be 89 this year.
 
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