Same here.
And to the point of no one cares after you're gone........
That may be regional.
Here in my corner of MS, we have what we call memorial day for several cemeteries on consecutive Sundays in July and August, think there is one in Sept. Lots and lots of people bring wreaths, to put on graves, and go by the tents and give a donation for the upkeep of the cemetery, like fences, mowing, etc. All the money goes into a trust.
All of my family going back to the mid 1800's are buried in two of them. Granted we can't afford to put flowers on all the grandparents, but a visit, and respect is certainly due. All we do is my mom and dad. Flowers are high dollar.
SB has family going back nearly that far, in two other cemeteries. But only one has memorial day. Still only on parents graves. And visit others.
2nd to that, one of the things in life that everyone will experience is death, not having an insurance policy in some fashion, to cover that is just not right. IMHO Whether that's cremation or burial.
Me and SB both want to be among our families. Marring me, she will join me in my families cemetery. Already have the plots and paid for. What ever you plan for when you die, you really need to get it settled and paid for now. It will be your last respondsibility.